Frailing is the relationship technique of abandoning the intention to receive and replacing it with the intention to give.
Teaching
Frailing is the relationship technique of abandoning the intention to receive and replacing it with the intention to give. You then receive what you sought without direct effort because the structure relaxes and balances in your favour. It works only when the giving is genuinely unconditional; strategic giving to manipulate is still a condition and still attracts balancing forces. The trick is to give what the other person truly needs, not what flatters your image.
Practice · 4 min
Approach one person you wanted something from today and offer support for their aim first. Let the gesture stand without attaching a price.
Evening reflection
Where could giving first loosen a relationship you have been trying to prise open?